Comments on: Behavior http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/ Wed, 07 Jan 2009 04:59:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Amanda http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1075 Wed, 10 Jan 2007 03:23:30 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1075 This is my all-time favorite post! I work as a behavioral therapist and am in graduate school studying (what else) behavior analysis, and I LOVE LOVE LOVE it when people know about and use behavioral methods. Most people don't understand them (you're just bribing that kid, etc.) but reinforcements are truly what make the world go round! Who are we friends with? The people who make us feel good--they're reinforcing. Who is the better boss, the one who notices our successes or the one who notices our faults? If it's true of us adults then it's certainly true for children. PRAISE, PRAISE, AND MORE PRAISE--I promise that you won't spoil your kids by letting them know when they do stuff right. They'll just do that stuff more often! :) This is my all-time favorite post! I work as a behavioral therapist and am in graduate school studying (what else) behavior analysis, and I LOVE LOVE LOVE it when people know about and use behavioral methods. Most people don’t understand them (you’re just bribing that kid, etc.) but reinforcements are truly what make the world go round! Who are we friends with? The people who make us feel good–they’re reinforcing. Who is the better boss, the one who notices our successes or the one who notices our faults? If it’s true of us adults then it’s certainly true for children. PRAISE, PRAISE, AND MORE PRAISE–I promise that you won’t spoil your kids by letting them know when they do stuff right. They’ll just do that stuff more often! :)

]]> by: Cricket http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1074 Wed, 10 Jan 2007 02:50:45 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1074 I hope you talk more about this. Simple is better and this boils things down pretty simply. PS - What do you think about Angelina's comment that she feels more for her adoptive kids and their early trials vs. the one born to her in the lap of luxury? I think once the little one reads that in a decade or two, she'll have plenty of emotional obstacles to overcome herself. I hope you talk more about this. Simple is better and this boils things down pretty simply.

PS - What do you think about Angelina’s comment that she feels more for her adoptive kids and their early trials vs. the one born to her in the lap of luxury? I think once the little one reads that in a decade or two, she’ll have plenty of emotional obstacles to overcome herself.

]]> by: Sarah http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1072 Wed, 10 Jan 2007 01:22:40 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1072 I took a class from the teacher that wrote a book about the ABC methods. Dr. Frank Sparrzo. Is that your text book??? I took a class from the teacher that wrote a book about the ABC methods. Dr. Frank Sparrzo. Is that your text book???

]]> by: delightfulduchess http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1071 Wed, 10 Jan 2007 01:22:11 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1071 Great post. It is so difficult not to end a praise with however or but, but the last thing you say is what someone remembers. We have an inservice this year at school called "Fred Jones" and many techniques are given on how to speak, walk, etc. to not only students, but co-workers. I am glad you have the opportunity to attend these classes for free. Every parent should be given the opportunity to do so. It would probably decrease the amount of abuse we have in the world. Great post. It is so difficult not to end a praise with however or but, but the last thing you say is what someone remembers.

We have an inservice this year at school called “Fred Jones” and many techniques are given on how to speak, walk, etc. to not only students, but co-workers.

I am glad you have the opportunity to attend these classes for free. Every parent should be given the opportunity to do so. It would probably decrease the amount of abuse we have in the world.

]]> by: MollieBee http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1069 Tue, 09 Jan 2007 23:36:59 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1069 Thanks for the reminder about praise. Thanks for the reminder about praise.

]]> by: Aurelia http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1063 Tue, 09 Jan 2007 22:35:26 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1063 I love this, I'm printing it out and sticking it on my fridge, for me AND my husband to read! I love this, I’m printing it out and sticking it on my fridge, for me AND my husband to read!

]]> by: Michele http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1062 Tue, 09 Jan 2007 21:45:39 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1062 Fantastic topic, this is something that is so important to be reminded of often...parenting is the hardest job that I have ever had - my 2 1/2 year old challenges my patience daily. Thanks for sharing!! Fantastic topic, this is something that is so important to be reminded of often…parenting is the hardest job that I have ever had - my 2 1/2 year old challenges my patience daily. Thanks for sharing!!

]]> by: cluttergirl http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1058 Tue, 09 Jan 2007 20:33:15 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1058 I agree with everyone else. I think a lot of this is applicable to any relationship. In fact after reading it I rewrote the letter I was about to send to a client... using "you chose to" language, instead of "I don't want" language. I didn't put any praise in it though. So maybe the relationship will be doomed! Anyways, i love hearing this stuff. Keep sharing! I agree with everyone else. I think a lot of this is applicable to any relationship. In fact after reading it I rewrote the letter I was about to send to a client… using “you chose to” language, instead of “I don’t want” language. I didn’t put any praise in it though. So maybe the relationship will be doomed! Anyways, i love hearing this stuff. Keep sharing!

]]> by: cloudscome http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1057 Tue, 09 Jan 2007 20:30:39 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1057 Three postives for every negative - that is my NY's resolution. And pure praise - what a great concept!!! Thanks for giving us all you are learning. Three postives for every negative - that is my NY’s resolution. And pure praise - what a great concept!!! Thanks for giving us all you are learning.

]]> by: Erin O' http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1054 Tue, 09 Jan 2007 17:50:59 +0000 http://baggageandbug.com/2007/01/09/behavior/#comment-1054 I like this post -- really simple, easy to implement with great examples. And it works, too. It makes you more mindful about your own behavior, too, which I think helps your child realize that you are working to improve, too. e I like this post — really simple, easy to implement with great examples. And it works, too. It makes you more mindful about your own behavior, too, which I think helps your child realize that you are working to improve, too.

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