What can I say?
I can tell her that she will always be my little Snowbaby and that I love her, from the bottom of her feet to the top of her head. That I will always love her, when she is little and when she is big, no matter where I am and no matter where she is.
Because that is the truth. And no matter what happens, and no matter what my legal status to that child is, I will love her and she will always be my Snowbaby, even if she goes away and I never see her again. Her proximity to me and my legal status to her mean nothing to me, it is only what is in my heart and her heart that matters.
May 7th, 2008 at 9:27 am
Yep, you said it!!
May 7th, 2008 at 9:55 am
Beautiful.
May 7th, 2008 at 10:33 am
Perfectly stated!!
May 7th, 2008 at 10:34 am
And that is the gift all good foster parents give their foster children. A place in their lives and hearts all the rest of their days. You really are the best.
May 7th, 2008 at 11:40 am
I haven’t got choked up here in a long time. Until today. (Big sigh). Big hugs Baggy.
May 7th, 2008 at 11:42 am
It is the hardest part of fostering- (besides dealing with the state)
May 8th, 2008 at 10:18 am
And this is why I could never do what you do. It is hard enough to teach an abandoned child to trust, but how do you ever do this when you know that they could walk out of your life completely at any time and there is nothing you can do about it? It’s just a shame that these babies are jerked around the way they are. Children need so much more from a parent than a genetic connection. They need stability. They need permanence. They need to feel safe. They need to know that a mommy is forever.
I truly admire those of you who can nurture these little souls without anything but hope that you will always be able to be there for them.
May 8th, 2008 at 1:09 pm
That is the only thing you CAN say, because I guess you can’t promise her that you’ll physically be with her forever. But then again, what mother CAN promise that?