Day 3: I missed day two
Yesterday Izzy left. The transport team was super late and it turned into a big fiasco. I’ve got a killer sore throat and I’m just not feeling good. Yesterday was just a bad day. Callie and Bug both reacted to Izzy leaving with rather predictible results. Callie started feeling like everyone was picking on her and was freaking out. (She’s calmed down now.) Bug started ranting and raving, refused to do any work, and painted big signs that said she hated me. And Bubba and Snowbaby refused to take naps and Bubba screamed for nearly an hour.
Woo. That was fun.
Of course, it was all expected but sometimes it gets exhausting deaing with everyone else and their reactions and I feel like I don’t get a chance to deal with my own reaction.
Anyway, here’s two cute stories in the hopes that today goes better than yesterday:
Bug: I want to be a marine biologist. Of course, I need to figure out how to pass fifth grade first.
*****
Me: Next time you need to go poop, you need to tell PawPaw. He’ll take you to the potty at his house just like at home.
Snowbaby: Look! A Ball!
Me: Snowbaby, are you listening to me?
Snowbaby: No.
December 3rd, 2007 at 11:09 am
At least Snowbaby was honest.
Beverly
December 3rd, 2007 at 11:12 am
You need to just take few moments alone (I know easier said than done) to grieve and process your feelings about losing Izzy.
You and your family will be in our thoughts.
December 3rd, 2007 at 11:21 am
I’m sorry, Baggage. That sounds so incredibly hard.
Lots of love.
December 3rd, 2007 at 11:27 am
Expected doesnt make reality any easier to take. Maybe a do nothing for everyone day is in order. Hang in there.
December 3rd, 2007 at 11:37 am
They definitely all have interesting ways of handling their feelings! The painting of signs sounds especially useful… maybe I’ll try that sometime!
What a silly kid!
And at least Snowbaby is honest about not listening to you!
December 3rd, 2007 at 2:46 pm
What a day… I hope today is better for you!
December 3rd, 2007 at 5:49 pm
Again, I really dunno what to say about Izzy.
Marine biology is a very interesting topic. Science is very fascinating–no matter what area you ’specialize’ in.
December 3rd, 2007 at 7:03 pm
Baggage, you, Geo, and all the kids are in my thoughts tonight.
I agree, if you can get 5 minutes alone in the bathroom, might help.
I say that, because with only one child, I know how hard it is to have time alone.
k
December 3rd, 2007 at 7:17 pm
What a rough couple of days. I hope you’re able to find some time to process it all.
December 3rd, 2007 at 9:14 pm
I am so sorry that you have had no time for your own grief because you are picking up everyone elses.
December 3rd, 2007 at 9:19 pm
Ok, 100 points to Snowbaby for honesty. I’m sure you appreciate it, since if your teenage daughters are like mine, honesty is a long forgotten memory in their vocabulary.
Bug sounds so practical and yet so funny. What a hoot.
Sorry about Izzy. I know you’re probably in shock still, so I’ll expect you to fall apart sometime after the holidays. A disruption sucks and I hate it for ya’ll.
December 3rd, 2007 at 9:36 pm
I’ve been thinking similar thoughts lately, about how, as MOM, we never really get to react normally in the moment (except for about 3 hours in the middle of the night when we should be sleeping, not “dealing with the day”, because we are so busy being everybody else’s everything. I would like a day where if I want to cuss and yell and cry or sit around naked and eat ice cream for breakfast with lots of chocolate syrup or work a 9-5 shift and then lay on the couch until bedtime. Not everyday, just a few times a year, when I’m not having to be completely in control. I guess the little monkeys are worth it.
December 4th, 2007 at 11:50 pm
… on the other hand, she was listening enough to answer your question!
It is true what the other posters say… it is realy hard to have a real in themoment reaction as a mom, as we have to control our reactions for the kiddos, and also deal with theirs. It must in some ways be a relief to have the “breakup” over, but it must be so hard. I am sorry. I hope you find some time to just feel it yourself and grieve a little. So hard on everyone. hugs. ps, Bug: you’ll make it!!