An update on the girls
Both girls are doing well. The woman at Butterfly’s hospital is not real forthcoming with information. I’m not sure if it is because I’m the foster mom or not. Butterfly is still in denial over a lot of issues. I don’t feel comfortable talking a lot about her treatment right now without a password, but she is doing well. They are estimating that she will be discharged in about a week.
I just talked to Bug. She is doing well. She doesn’t like her roommate. She is on “Superstar” status which means she gets an extra 5 minutes added onto her one incoming phone call a day PLUS she gets to make an additional outgoing phone call for 10 minutes. She said that she likes that she is allowed to drink soda. She hates that she has to take a vitamin. They earn fake money for their behavior and can spend it in a reward store. She has bought a journal, a plastic snake, and a can that makes farting noises. She spends her free time reading the book she brought with her over and over. She was going to try to find out today if they had more books for her to read.
She had a psych exam today. We should have a tentative diagnosis tomorrow. The nurse said Bug is participating and doing pretty good. Bug got a chance to talk to Snowbaby too which made Bug happy. Not that Snowbaby is a good conversationalist “HI! BYE!” but Bug liked it.
She sounds like such a baby on the phone. In the past six months, she has gained a ton of weight and shot up five inches. We are now almost the exact same size. She looks like a teenager, but on the phone she sounded like a little five year old.
The doctor talked a little about what Bug has been saying down there. I am not going to go into details, but it all revolves around her birthmom. (Which is what I said we were working through a few posts ago.) They also said it is very common for children to have a relapse during puberty, especially children who were drug exposed in utero.
I’m proud of my girl. I’m pleased with the care she has been given. As much as I hate that this is necessary for either girl, I feel confident that this was the right decision for both of them.
April 25th, 2007 at 1:43 pm
I am so glad to hear they are doing well. Breaks my heart but it is going to be great in the long run. You hang in there!!
April 25th, 2007 at 2:03 pm
So glad to hear that butterfly and superbug are doing ok.. Was worried over them. I know I only know them from 500 words a day but well that makes me like them a lot….
April 25th, 2007 at 2:58 pm
What can people like us say to you? I don’t know exactly what you are going through or what your girls are going through, but I can pray. I’m sorry this is so hard. I’m sorry that life sucks sometimes. I’m glad it’s looking up for all of you. You sound like you’ve recovered a bit and are coming to a good place in this turmoil. Being a parent is the hardest job in the world, especially when someone else had the chance to screw up your kids before you got them. We’ve had that with our newly adopted son. I could just kill his birthparents somedays. AND it kills me that he misses them so much when they did such terrible things to him. Alas.. it’s our lot in life.
Keep up the good work Mom! It’s hard for all of us and someday you’ll be able to reflect on the good that might come from this.
April 25th, 2007 at 3:32 pm
I’m so sorry you all are going through this, but so glad both girls are doing well, considering. You hang in there too. And as awful as it sounds, try to enjoy the bit of a break (whoever thought two little kids at home would ever seem like a *break*, huh?)
April 25th, 2007 at 3:39 pm
Glad to hear the girls are doing well.
April 25th, 2007 at 3:42 pm
I am glad that it sounds like Bug is getting on okay, and I hope Butterfly is alright too - good to know she will likely be home soon. I hope Bug gets well again soon, too. At least the girls are getting treatment that will hopefully contribute to them eventually becoming happy, healthy adults. Hang in there.
April 25th, 2007 at 3:52 pm
Hey there! I’m so glad to hear that both girls are doing well. I’ve been thinking of them and you. How are you holding up?
April 25th, 2007 at 6:10 pm
I am so relieved that you sound so much more positive about this. You ARE a great mom cuz you got them help. I hope that they learn a lot, deal with a lot, and come back to you stronger and healthier. Hope you’re doing ok yourself.
April 25th, 2007 at 7:49 pm
Yay for Bug doing so well! I’m glad they’re both getting the help they need right now.
April 25th, 2007 at 8:50 pm
It’s great to hear that things are starting to get better! Here’s hoping that everything keeps improving.
April 25th, 2007 at 10:29 pm
I am beyond sorry about what you are having to deal with right now. As a foster parent, I did not even think for one second that the other kids caused this, or you. YOU have been the best thing that ever happened to Bug, and it sucks mightily that you and she have to deal with all the fall out from her earlier years. Hugs to you dear, I am so sorry.
April 26th, 2007 at 6:31 am
Sometimes as moms we have to do the right thing no matter how hard it is. From what I read you seem to do a really good job at doing the right things for your kids. I think you are a wonderful mom and I get the feeling that you would never give up on any of your kids, which just might be the MOST important thing you can do for them.
I don’t remember the criteria you had for giving out passwords and you might not be giving them out anymore but if you are and I meet your criteria, I would like to have one. If not I promise I’ll still keep reading daily. You are one of my favourite blogs.
April 26th, 2007 at 10:34 am
I’m sorry you guys are going through this, I’m sending good vibes and prayers your way.
I’ll say it again, you are an amazing person for being able to love these kids so much. Hang in there.
April 26th, 2007 at 11:58 am
Thanks for the update. I’m so proud of Bug behaving herself and working with the doctors and staff. Hopefully she will get some of her fears and questions answered and dealt with by the professionals there. I’m thinking about Butterfly and hoping she gets some answers and coping skills for issues she never should have been forced to deal with at such a short age. Sometimes I could just smack her birthmom for causing damage in such an innocent child! I hope the birthmom is getting some extreme help,(and I also hope she wakes up tomorrow without a uterus!)Hope the babes are good. Cant wait to hear from you again.
April 26th, 2007 at 12:33 pm
Not sure how to get a password to check in on things, so praying all is going well! Hang in there!
April 26th, 2007 at 1:16 pm
I hope everything is going well with the big girls and with the little ones too. How are Snowbaby and Bubba dealing with the big girls being gone?
If I can, I’d like to get a password.
April 26th, 2007 at 1:38 pm
Forgive me if I’m being overly nosey, but the above two comments reminded me that I’d been meaning to ask how one goes about getting a password.
And if it’s none of my business, feel free to let me know!